Cold Feet

VIOLA

Cold feet.

No, I don’t mean cold feet as in the kind you get from being out in the cold or swimming in water that’s too cold or simply not dressing warm enough.

I mean the other kind of cold feet.

The worst kind.

The kind that some women, and to a lesser extent, some men get just before their wedding. Yes, that kind.

My biggest pet hate. Why? Because in my line of work, they can ruin everything.

What is my line of work?

I’m a wedding planner. Any wedding planner hates and fears cold feet. They can derail everything. The whole day. Ruin you financially and possibly your reputation too.

I’ve been in this game a long time though and I’ve learned the hard way. When you’ve had enough cancellations because of cold feet you become hard. It becomes a matter of survival as well as doing what you love.

I now insist on non-refundable deposits from clients. They sign a contract when they hire me and they accept that they will lose their hard-earned money if they dare cancel. The deposit covers the location rental, decorations, cakes, caterers, furniture and marquee, photographer, band, and absolutely everything I need to cover.

I’ve gone a step further with my service. I include a counselor who provides last-minute counseling if the bride or the groom gets cold feet. They don’t know the person they’re speaking to is a counselor if I send them in. The counselor works the magic they need to, to keep the show on the road.

I’m the best. Not just as far as clients are concerned but also as far as my suppliers are concerned. They know they’ll get paid even if the show doesn’t go on.

I’m inundated with clients and they even delay their weddings just so I can be the wedding planner. I’m not boasting, just saying how it is.

For me, it’s not about the business aspect. There’s something about seeing a couple walk down the aisle to that moment in time when they will commit to each other before God and everyone present. Seeing the love and caring in their eyes and their kiss and the celebrations that follow. I love it. I love to see a couple in love and happy. That’s why I do it. I help couples make a dream come true with their wedding day.

But right now, I’m waiting with bated breath. It’s early Saturday afternoon.

groom is waiting in church and the bride hasn’t even left her home yet. The counselor is doing her

I am seeing my record run of talking brides and grooms out of cold feet threatening to end here and

wait with bated breath for the message to

bride is on

prayer of thanks and heave a sigh of relief. I key the

of them had cold feet is always told what to say beforehand. As far as possible, no-one wants

to the church isn’t far and thankfully the bride’s car arrives soon enough. The bride steps out and the organ starts playing as she enters the church with the flower girls and

groom watches her and his face lights up with joy. He can’t see her face that well because of the veil. I hope the bride is giving none of her fear away. My counselor climbed out of the car when they arrived. It must

she doesn’t. I say another prayer of thanks when she says ‘I do” and

newly married couple exit the church. Guests and well-wishers sprinkle confetti and smile

this far, I think with relief. Now it’s on to the reception which I expect will go off without a hitch. The couple will do their photos just

to reenter the church, I notice him for the first time. I pause as

not military style. His blue eyes sparkle and his strong jaw is perfectly proportioned. White teeth sparkle with his smile and everything about him says ‘I am in

at the newly married couple but must feel my eyes on him because he turns and our eyes meet for

I wonder where his partner is. Surely, he can’t be at this

resist the urge to look at him again. I wait until the couple is heading down the road in the wedding

always good. They also know what food is needed for every team member so I don’t

can focus on what needs to be done and adapt our

all confirm they are ready for the role they will play in the reception. The photographer is the

that they are ready with their equipment and will head to the reception location

checklist and mark off items one by one as the team members confirm that

Check. Decorations. Check. Flowers. Check. MC. Check. The list

checklist and everyone

never expect her to stay around after the wedding. Her job is pretty much done

and embrace her. We have worked together for a long time and

did a great job as usual,” I smile when we end our embrace and I

the team quickly and then back at me. “Can we